I have been thinking what to post for my second real entry into the blog after its metamorphosis. There is so much that I need to say and so much that I feel I must write. I thought I would start here. The blog will undoubtedly take on a life of its own as I explore topics that are wholly more relevant to our situation, but I cannot escape this fork in the road. I will be taking the right fork, but that does not make the left fork any less significant or real, especially for those who find themselves on it. And by left and right I mean no comparison to the political meanings poured into those two words, I could have easily said Fork A and Fork B. There are two basic flaws in the current CPS system, and a meaningful discussion of reform must by necessity acknowledge both. The problem is those of us involved in the system tend to focus on one flaw or the other, probably because it is the one we are dealing with, and we ignore, or even deny the other. In many ways it is dificult for those of us involved to see the reality of the other and some have chosen to fight more with the other camp then with the real culprit CPS. I have read enough books, blogs, and personal testimonies to believe that both crimes do occur, even within the same agency, and sometimes by the same agent.
The two Camps I shall Call Camp A and Camp B (probably better then the right left designation I used ealier). Camp A is composed of those who cannot seem to get CPS to act when it would and should be appropriate for them to do so. I must admit that from my point of view I find it difficult to believe that this happens, but it does. I do not know if the rational is money, that does seem to play a factor in CPS's decision making. I have read countless accounts of women who cannot get visitation stopped or limited with a spouse they believe is abusing there children. In many of these cases there is ample, and convincing evidence that abuse may be occurring. At the very least you would think that supervised visitation would be more appropriate then unsupervised. For those of you stuck in this situation I feel for you. I feel the pain of having your children out of your sight and control, and being unable to stop what as a parent you should be able to stop or control.
Camp B is the situation that we find ourselves in. That is CPS pushing through to the Nth degree when there is no cause for such severe reactions. Parents are restricted from seeing there children, TPR's are granted on the flimsiest of evidence. Less restrictive interventions are completely overlooked or untried and the children are pushed in one door and out to the door that says adoption with no thought or regard to even attempting to keep the family together. I fought for 2 years to even see my girls before the TPR and was denied on all but three occasions, and I believe those only happened because of a mistake by the Case manager. Now into this camp are two distinct subgroups. First are those who are guilty, but who through therapy and hard work can relearn appropriate parenting skills. The second are the innocent. They are guilty of nothing more then bad timing, poor judgement, or having an investigator with a warped, and overactive imagination.
As you can see CPS has many victims. While it is bad for the parents who find themselves trapped in the nightmare it is even worse for the children. I am convinced there is not a foster parent alive who could live up to the exacting standards CPS puts Bio parents through. The Children are the ones who are being traumatized and damaged by mere exposure to the system. My heart breaks not for my own pain, but for the pain of the child who is trapped in a system without a voice. GAL's and CASA's regularly substitute there own agendas over that of the children they pretend to represent. My children begged and cried to see me, and rejoiced when they did get to see me. There GAL would not hear of it, because I was unrepentant, just because I would not admit to something that did not happen. One statistic I have seen is that there are 17 cases of unnecessary removal for every 1 of legitimate abuse.
Both these crimes need to be investigated. While I have no hard evidence, my gut tells me that if we look closely at these two crimes we will see money playing a big role in these decisions. CPS is a broken and corrupt system. What price are we paying for the ability to pat ourselves on the back and lay our head on the pillow believing that we are making a difference in the lives of children. We are not. We are destroying children and families at an alarming rate.
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